Did you know that the way we think can affect how our body feels?
We create stress in our lives when we get attached to our beliefs, likes, and dislikes, and this holds us back and keeps us trapped in repetitive, habitual behaviors.
For example, do you always need to be liked?
Do you get defensive when criticized?
Do you judge others?
Do you eat to soothe yourself?
Every one of these behaviors is created by your past collection of memories and experiences.
The solution or way to create permanent change is developing your awareness of how you behave in your world and with this awareness change begins to happen.
Start to observe your reactions, habits, language and then explore what you sense and feel in your body in relation to that behavior. Get curious about it. What do you feel in your body when you feel angry or stressed? Don’t judge or set expectations, be objective observing what is. Awareness creates change.
Observe your internal dialogue.
How do you talk to yourself? Do you use kind, supportive, uplifting words or are you cruel to yourself?
Would you speak that way to your co-worker, hairdresser or doctor?
Do you speak to your family that way?
When you feel yourself reacting out of habit, take a moment to pause, step into your courage and do something different.
Everyday of our lives we have two choices; to live from a place of love or to live from a place of fear. Under the category of Love is just pure unconditional Love.
Under the category of fear is greed, anger, jealousy and every negative emotion we can come up with as human beings. Start to pay attention to what motivates your behavior. Is it Love or is it fear?
Life is a journey, a practise. So nothing needs to be perfect. We are all life-long students.
Practise being the observer, stay present to your thoughts, words and actions. Are your thoughts, words and deeds loving and kind? Try instead to keep Love in your heart and in your thoughts, words and actions.
Non-violence is at the root of all Eastern Philosophies. These philosophies teach us to practise being kind to ourselves. The better we get at being kind to ourselves the more harmonious all of our relationships become. Not just with ourselves and our bodies but with others as well.
Our true nature is that of peace and harmony, we are Love. Pure and perfect.
We have covered over that perfection with layers and layers of behavior patterns, beliefs, likes and dislikes. As we peel back the layers, like we peel back the layers of an onion, we get closer and closer to our true selves. Our light begins to shine brighter as we get closer to our true potential, to our true nature.
Pain and tension dulls our light and inhibits the flow of energy in the body, mind and spirit. Everything you do takes more effort mentally, emotionally and physically. As we learn to be kind to ourselves and to Love ourselves we learn what ease and flow feels like. Ease of breath, and movement. Ease in the body translates into ease in one’s life.
Here is an exercise you can begin to practise right away:
Do something kind for your future self. For example, do some meal prep before bed or early in the morning so that when you arrive home at the end of the day tired and hungry, healthy food is waiting for you. Or, make your bed and tidy your room every morning so that your room and your bed feel light, uncluttered and spacious. Welcoming you when you are feeling tired at the end of your day. Be kind and thoughtful to your future self. It only takes a few minutes but it would mean so much to you when you are benefiting from that kindness.